Nobody goes into marriage without the dream that their love will last forever.
Every girl wants to be solely loved, cherished and desired by the love of her life - the one she has given herself to. No woman dreams of having the sexual intimacy she shares with her husband be only one of multiple sexual outlets he pursues. No woman dreams of a man acting out habitually with pornography, let along with another woman.
The whole idea of marital intimacy is to create a close union that is exclusive and mutually enjoyed. It is within that intimacy a woman feels safe, secure, and significant.
Yet, the reality is, many partner's dreams have been shattered by the discovery of their mate’s sexual integrity issues. And their vow, spoken or unspoken, “to love and to cherish till death do us part,” turns into a shrapnel of shattered dreams, surrounded by a typhoon of hopelessness and despair.
There is a collection of physical, emotional, mental & spiritual...
Danny heard the sound that half of the world’s iPhone owners hear when they receive a text.
“Hey bro, I’m signing up for Covenant Eyes. It will email all of the websites I visit to my accountability partner. I need to stop watching porn. Can I put your email down to register you as my accountability partner?”
‘Man,’ Danny thought. ‘I’ve been on both ends of this conversation multiple times before and it’s never worked. I wonder – if porn sites show up on the report that gets emailed to me, does he want me to call him? If I call him, what should I say? I want the best for Steve, but how do I actually help him?
Danny said, “Steve, of course you can put my email address down, but if I’m going to be your accountability partner, I’m going to actually be your partner. What do you want this partnership to look like?”
“Well…..you’ll get a report of the websites I visit.”
The level of devastation depends on who you ask.
Covenant Eyes will tell you the number is 64%. Pure Desire Ministries says 68%. Either way, it’s devastating.
This is the number of Christian men who view pornography at least once a month.
The biggest porn site in the world says that up to 35% of it’s members are women, so this isn't a gender specific game.
Worryingly, only 7% of churches claim to have programs addressing pornography.
The tipping point for pornography occured long ago. It took over society with hurricane force and didn’t stop outside the church doors. Here we are, two decades after the web started making porn more available, hardcore, and private than ever - and churches may not have caught wind of the destruction.
Or have they? In my opinion, the church relating to porn is a lot like the Israelite army. They knew Goliath was big, strong, and scary. They knew the damage he would cause. But they were too terrified to step onto the battlefield,...
Did you ever hear the one about the guy who died because his sexual needs weren't met?
“Here lies Joe. He passed away suddenly at home after not getting sex for two-and-a-half long years.”
Wait a second. You haven’t? Me neither.
I bet we never will.
Here are some things that people do die of:
This is because shelter, air, and food are needs. We can’t live without them. On the other hand, ‘sexual needs’ is a term made up over time, presumably by a man looking to justify his sexual demands.
Despite the text Hollywood plants on magazine covers in our checkout lines, the concept of having sexual ‘needs’ is not biblical. God will never tell you that you’ve got sexual needs because He’d be contradicting His word by doing so.
Sexual urges? A sex drive? Absolutely. The difference is subtle, but massively important.
Unfortunately, I’ve heard Christians in small groups and on stages use this...
As an NHL prospect, Matt was told by his agent, "You will get drafted." But after an unexpected injury put his hockey career on hold, Matt was left to try and understand who he was, and when, or if he could get back on the ice.
During his pain and disappointment, God started drawing him into a deeper relationship with Him. That began a journey of recovery from an addiction to pornography, as well as hope and discovering who he was, and what he was meant for.
Matt reminds us that our problems, failures, and even successes don't define who we are, God does.
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